Dwarf Star

deathtokillian:

No your not a bad person. The only reason I can think why it would be transphobic is saying “I’ll date trans men but no cis men”, to some people it implies that trans men are not men.

But I don’t see nothing wrong with not wanting to date cis men. Now if you were a cis person than yea that would be wrong and weird becouse again that impies that trans men are not men. But I’ve seen alot of other trans people not be attracted to cis men but like other trans people.

-I’ve seen trans men who only date other trans men.

-I’ve seen people who will date any gender but not cis men, like they will date nonbinary people who were afab or amab or other trans people but not cis men.

I don’t see a problem with not dating cis men aslong as you still see and treat all trans men as men.

Yeah. I have dated a cis guy that I did like but it was overwhelming. A total sweetheart but much taller and stronger than me and I felt like a hamster standing right beside a mastiff dog for the first time. I was so terrified of dating him that I would cry at night and flinch if he even moved his hand. I dated him for a solid month. I got progressively worse and had to end it. My mental state became so deteriorated with him that I can’t even look at a picture of him without even slightly freaking out. I had to avoid him at my sister’s work when they worked together (and I didn’t apply there for a job until after he left and moved to another state).

I’m fine with friends. Always been terrified to even hold hands with cis boys growing up. They terrify me, especially with the power they hold by only just having a penis. Hugs are scary. But trans guys, even those gone through (top)surgery and HRT, I feel super comfortable around. I like all boys, ofc, but I just can’t date cis boys. And if people think I’m a bad person, maybe they should go through what I went through with cis men all my life. Maybe then they’d understand me.